We'll I went to my brother-in-laws church the first three weeks I was here. I like the service, music and pastor but sadly, not one person came up to talk to me. The following week, I went to two services of other chuches and again, not one person came up to engage me in conversation! The first two churches, I wrote on the card, that no one greeted me and left my phone number. Not one person even bothered to call me. The only thing worse than being ignored, is being ignored again. The last church took the time to read my card and give me a call to meet me. I've made a bit of a connection with them and I have been attending their church, even though it is a bit of a drive. I've concluded two things from all this. I think it is kind of a big church mentality to not say much to new people because with so many new people it can be ackward to say, "are you new" only to have them say "I've been here the last three weeks" so people don't take the chance rather than be embarassed. Secondly, I do think people from Arizona are normally not as friendly as in the midwest. I think it takes awhile for them to warm up to you. SO WHEN YOU ARE GREETING PEOPLE IN CHURCH, THE PROPER WAY WOULD BE TO ASK SOME OF THE FOLLOWING:
I'm sorry, have I met you before?
or
Thanks for coming, I'm glad you are here today?
or
I'm glad you're here today, anything I can help you with?
If they are new, they probably will let you know. If not, I don't think either of you will be embarassed.
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